What are "Bondage" Folks Like?

 
There are a lot of people who know very little about people who engage in BDSM, “bondage” and other activities that in many areas are still considered taboo.  It is unfortunate that there is a lot of incorrect judging of what people who engage in what many call deviant behavior are like.

People who engage in BDSM and other so called kinky activities come from all walks of life.  They are not a bunch of geeks as I heard one person who had a deficit of intelligence say.  In thinking about the people who I have gotten to know personally who engage in these activities, here is a list of some of the occupations of some of those I have associated with.   Accountant, Screenwriter, artist, farmer, teacher, musician, professor, psychologist, radiologist, dentist, C.E.O., Chairman of the School Board, Scientist, Social Worker, Policeman, Firefighter, Electrician,  postal worker, salesman, professional diver, actor, film editor, stockbroker, mortician, piano teacher, software engineer,  concrete worker, engineer, florist, web designer, construction worker, social worker, councilor, Rabbi, priest,  cab driver, tax collector, commander in the Navy, real estate developer, human resources manager, professional athlete, prison guard, writer, banker, and even one guy who was an honest to goodness drifter with no job at all.  The types of jobs and lifestyles of these people are as varied as the rest of the world. 

Are some of the people into bondage and BDSM weird and misfits?  Of course some of them are, just like some people in the vanilla world are too.  Are there some bad people who do these kinds of activities?  Yep.  I have met some pretty dishonest crooks and some real bad and dark people in the bondage community. I have also met some pretty dishonest people and really bad and dark people who have no interest in “kink” and “BDSM”. 

Are they all a bunch of left wing liberals?  Nope.  A lot of them are because they usually vote for social change for the better.  I have met some pretty right wing conservative republicans who are deeply into BDSM.  I know some people in the bondage community that have obvious mental problems.  But I have met even more people out of the bondage community with mental problems.   

I have not found any real common denominator for people who are into bondage as compared to those who are not.  Neither seems to be smarter or more balanced than the other.  They come from all religions, and from all nationalities.  They have varied personalities and outside interests and hobbies.  They are neat or messy.  They are rich and poor.  Most of them keep their bondage interests very secret.  It has been estimated that 30% of the population has or does engage in some kind of what may be considered deviant behavior that is not within the “box” of social norms.  I think that it is likely more like 80 or 90 percent.  We know from one study that 49 percent of men surveyed said that they got turned on by “bondage” in some form or another. 

So to answer the question posed in the title of this article, what are people engaged in bondage and BDSM like?  Like your next door neighbor who is mowing their lawn right now, like your sibling who just sent you a birthday card, like your co worker that you had lunch with this afternoon, or maybe like you.